- whether your marriage is long or short,
- whether or not you have children,
- whether your financial picture is large or small.
The alternative to mediation
- with lawyers representing each of you,
- arguing your case with each other and in court
- making it much more complex:
- takes much longer, is personally damaging and destructive, and is many times more expensive
You can resolve your property division, parenting plan (custody, visitation), debts, child support, and maintenance (alimony) in an amicable way in mediation. The mediator works with both of you, as a neutral, to help you reach agreement. It's always important to plan for the tax effects of your agreement as well, and the mediator can help with that too.
The mediator writes up the agreement you reach, to be used as your final agreement in court, and can assist you with your other court paperwork, or prepare the documents for you, if you wish.
In mediation you make the decisions and agreements, not the mediator. The mediator provides legal and other information and explanations that help you to have the conversation and negotiation that you need to have with each other to resolve all these matters. You stay in the driver's seat, instead of letting someone else, lawyers or the court, make your decisions for you.
Options for the Marriage in Difficulty: the Postnup
"We have some problems, but we don't want to divorce. What can we do?
When difficulties arise in a marriage, most couples think they can go to counseling or get a divorce. In fact there are other options. For some, reaching a verbal agreement plus a handshake and a kiss are enough. For others, a formal written agreement is the solution. This would be a post-nupital agreement, or "postnup" (in contrast to a pre-nupital, which is made before the marriage). Some just call it a "marital" agreement.
Sometimes financial agreements interfere with the flourshing of a relationship. Such a challenge can be resolved through understanding and agreements, whether the difficulties are about spending and saving, or needed clarification about what's "your", "mine" and "ours". Agreemetns that draw some bright lines in these areas can be real solutions.
Couples here have made agreements in other areas too, such as steps toward better communication, including about electronics, parenting rules, as well as areas such as alcohol, drugs, and gambling.
In all these areas, you can choose the course that's best for you, or think of something new. Mediation is a great process for creativity. While not all couples who come to mediation resolve all that they set out to accomplish, most do.
Divorced and married couples can be proud of the respectful and dignified manner in which they handled something very difficult, at a difficult time.
Long term satisfaction with your agreement depends on two factors: a deep sense that you have been fair to yourself, and the same deep sense that you have been fair to the other. "Fair" here includes respect.
Evidence shows that those who mediate their divorce are far more apt to have continued parental and family relationships in the future, than those who argue in court. Thus children benefit greatly when their parents divorce amicably, and the long term relationships with both parents are far more likely to be supported in a friendly process.
Call Now To See If Our Services are a Good Fit For Both of You
Contact us today, and find out whether mediation is appropriate for your situation, and to discuss your options. Some people call us individually, and others schedule a time when both spouses or partners can be on the line, a conference call.
Over 30 Years' Experience in Divorce Mediation
In more than 30 years of experience in mediation, we have seen hundreds of divorcing couples be honest, trusting and trustworthy, have meaningful communication, and cooperate fully to come to agreement, rather than engage in the long, expensive and destructive adversarial process with the court making decisions for you.
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The hours for Friendly Divorce are 8am to 6pm, Monday - Thursday, Friday 8am to 5pm. Saturday 10am to 1pm (Evergreen only).
We have two locations, one in Denver West (near Colorado Mills and the intersection of I-70 and C-470), and the other in Evergreen, serving Denver and the Font Range, as well as all of Colorado and beyond via Skype or conference call.